Building a Reflective Homeschool, The Grace of a Hippo

During our yearly trip to the Omaha Zoo, I stood captivated at the rain forest floor exhibit. The typically sedentary pygmy hippo was walking along the river bed and as we watched, an adjective came to mind I do not normally associate with the hippopotamus: graceful. It literally danced along the rocks at the bottom of his tank, as light footed as a ballerina. Smooth, fluid and beautiful, it was in its element, doing what it was created to do.

The characteristics which make the hippo perfectly adapted to its underwater home have made it awkward and slow on land. Prior to my first encounter with the pygmy hippo at the zoo, however, I had only seen hippos lazily floating at the surface or lumbering on shore. Since only their weaknesses were visible to me, I have always characterized them by these same weaknesses.

Since I tend to view my children’s weaknesses as that which will hold them back in life, I tend to focus on them. I look at my daughter’s school work and know she is weak in spelling and strong in math. I could simply say, “Well, you just are not that good at spelling so we don’t need to waste more time on it. Spell check will help.” But I do not think we should back away from challenges so easily. She can learn to spell, it may just be more difficult for her than it was for me. I could also overwhelm her with practice, taking time from the studies she enjoys to make sure that she meets some sort of arbitrary standard. And I think I am guilty of that a little. At least at times. I do not want her to have weaknesses.

But that is because I focus on them too much. She is weak in spelling, Why? Given the fact that she still flips her letters around, I am beginning to suspect the possibility of a learning disability, but there is more to it than that. She has a strong bodily-kinesthetic intelligence. She excels in karate, loves art, science, math…essentially everything in which she is doing something. She has strengths which help her to excel in many things.

To support her education, I need to more effectively recognize the relationship between her strengths and weaknesses. I also need to give her full opportunity to explore her strengths and challenge herself. As she tests her own limits and learns more about herself and how she thinks and learns, she may begin to be able to use her strengths to overcome some of her weaknesses. Some things she will glide through, but with practice she will also be able to move serviceably through those things which are more challenging. And she will have the grace of a hippo.

Other posts in this series:

Horizontal learning vs. vertical learning
The treasure of experience
Sharing the wonder
Unanswered questions
The grace of a hippo
Tools Not Toys

Photo credits: The video is not by me, but it is of the pygmy hippo at the Henry Doorly Zoo in Omaha. The photo is from the Smithsonian National Zoological Park.


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Renae
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Thank you for giving me some insight into how I can strengthen my children’s weaknesses. I was just thinking that focusing too much attention on weak areas could lead to discouragement.

I really enjoyed your analogy. God created the hippo according to his purpose. He created our children the same way.

Dana
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Thanks, Renae. I did not really see the connection between my own strengths and weaknesses in college. I took a battery of tests as part of an education course and the results indicated that school should have been an exceptional struggle for me. I struggle noticeably with auditory information. Everything about school is set up to discriminate those like me. But I have always known that, so I have always compensated. I cannot listen and take notes. Instead, I have always listened carefully, visualized what was being discussed and took notes after the lecture. It just went along with recognizing… Read more »
Jenny in Ca
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wow, great post- I love the graceful hippo word picture. Much to ponder regarding how we view and deal with our children’s weak areas, and even how we view our own.

Anonymous
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It’s Liz from I Speak of Dreams and More Joy in Your FamilyI came by thanks to a Google alert for “learning disability” A lovely and well-written post. If you do think your daughter has an LD (the spelling is a better clue that letter reversals), early remediation is better than later. You may find this website informative: http://www.recognitionandresponse.org/ I strongly recommend Susan Barton’s Reading and Spelling system (I am a Barton tutor, but have no other connection). It’s a one-on-one remedial reading (and spelling) system. The parent or tutor delivers the training, after being coached by Barton via DVD/video.… Read more »
Dana
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Thank you so much, Liz! I will check out the information. There are several things she does that have made me question if something might be going on. The spelling and reading are difficult to use because her vision is poor and and only recently fully corrected. She began to blossom in reading late in second grade, and I’m hoping the spelling will follow now that the vision is taken care of. But there are things she says I don’t quite know how to explain. They are not normal syntax errors, so I wonder about how she processes information. Anyway,… Read more »
Shawna
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Nicely written! I too have spelling as a weakness, as did Mark Twain (yes, that IS a comfort LOL) What does knowing about that weakness do for me? It makes me more aware; it makes me more willing to own my own errors and move on–they are not a reflection of the person I am; they allowed me to teach from a stand point that we all have weaknesses and knowing them and working with them makes us stronger, smarter…not dumber as many would have us thing; it gives me a reason to slow down a bit, to pause rather… Read more »
Elizabeth B
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Yes, the earlier the remediation the better, however, I have some free and cheap ideas before you spend the money for Barton. First, read my page about dyslexia: http://www.thephonicspage.org/On%20Reading/dyslexia.html You can have her take the MWIA as a diagnostic test for dyslexia. Then, try my free online spelling lessons. Next, try Webster’s Speller. If you can’t figure out Webster after my spelling lessons, work through my free phonics lessons. You might have to use Firefox for my QuickTime movies, some users have recently had problems with Internet Explorer and QuickTime. And, I definitely recommend Hilde Mosse’s book. Good Luck! We’re… Read more »
elizabeth B
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By the way, that hippo was amazing–I’d never seen one swimming.

Elizabeth B
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You might also find Paul Hanna’s Spelling: Structure and Strategies helpful. It’s cheap used: http://www.amazon.com/Spelling-strategies-Paul-Robert-Hanna/dp/0395045657/ref=sr_1_1/105-0078372-3656456?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1187188610&sr=8-1 He talks about different ways of learning spelling. One hands on approach he suggests is making a list like this: far, flat, sift, draft, graph, phooto, telephone, stif, stuff, puff, laugh, rough, tough, enough, craft, frog, and nephew. Then, you have the student come up with rules about the sound f on their own. (p. 162- 163 in his book.) She may also do well with this method (further explained here, with a link to speling rules): http://www.thephonicspage.org/On%20Spelling/learningtospell.html For further improvement, write down all the… Read more »
short
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You visited my blog so I came over and visited yours. You are such a gifted writer. I have thoroughly enjoyed every one of your postings. This one about the hippo was great. My daughter is spacial and kinesthetic in her learning. She is an amazing athlete. I see now that she is an underwater, dancing hippo struggling on land. Thanks for the analogy.

Dana
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Thank you for taking the time to stop by, short! I look forward to reading some more of your blog when I get back!